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37 God First, Spouse Second, Then Kids: The Biblical Order of Personal Rhythms (with Spark Coach Aubree Felderhoff)

Do you know taking care of yourself is important but find yourself the first one to neglect it?

What if you could create personal rhythms that align with your God-given mission instead of just adding more to your to-do list?

Are you exhausted from parenting kids with additional needs and feeling like you have nothing left to pour into your marriage?

In this conversation, I had so much fun sitting down with my personal coach Aubree Felderhoff to discuss creating personal rhythms for yourself and marriage. This is Part 4 of the Mission-Plan-Rhythms series, completing the framework for moving from survival mode to thriving.

I'm being really vulnerable in this episode because while I can create beautiful rhythms for my family, in that past, I've been the first one to neglect taking care of myself and my marriage. Aubree walks me (and you!) through practical strategies for building rhythms that align with your mission, strengthening your marriage, and preventing burnout. From the "brain dump" strategy to weekly marriage meetings, this episode is packed with actionable tools for exhausted moms.

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Take Action:

  1. Do a brain dump - Write down everything you need to do this week
  2. Identify your mission - What is God calling you to as a mother?
  3. Start with God - Establish one rhythm for connecting with Him
  4. Schedule a marriage meeting - Pick a weekly time and protect it
  5. Create a shared list with your spouse - Add items throughout the week
  6. Ask yourself: What would make my life more breathable if I fixed it first?
  7. Get support - Consider coaching, connect with your pastor, or join community


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